High Conflict Couples

Chapter 9: High Conflict Couples

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1. Think of a time recently where you and your partner disagreed. Describe the situation, noticing how you were feeling, without judgement. How is it helpful not to place judgment on your experience?

2. How can you be more “compassionate towards yourself?”

3. Name a time recently when you could have been more compassionate towards yourself.

4. When you self-validate, are you more likely to validate your partner? Explain.

5. When you are in a heightened emotional state, what are some specific things you can do to that will help you be kind to yourself and self-soothe?

6. Explain what “invalidation” is.

7. What are at least two specific behaviors that are “invalidating.” You may use the examples in the book.

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1. Using a patronizing tone or response
2. Thinking or acting superior (this can show in our facial expressions or body language)
3. Being judgmental with our choice of words
4. Showing mean-spiritedness or contempt for the person
5. Treating them as an incompetent human being.

8. What kind of reactions can “invalidating” trigger in both your partner and you?

9. What “true emotion” does anger often mask? Explain.

10. Explain how reacting in anger is not as helpful as describing your “true emotion.”

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